A Wedding And A Challenge: Lebanese Couples Fight For Civil Marriage
Like lots of young married couples, Kholoud Succariyeh and Nidal Darwish love to show their wedding video. They go all misty-eyed remembering that day two years ago.
“Very beautiful,” says Succariyeh. “Everything is nice.”
Their wedding was special, not only as a personal milestone for the couple. It was a political milestone, as well.
Darwish says their union was a challenge to the state: It was Lebanon’s first civil marriage.
No one ever said marriage was easy, but in Lebanon, it’s even harder. That’s because the country has 18 different religions and sects and almost as many sets of marriage laws for each — 15 in total.
The laws — along with those governing divorce and inheritance — are determined by 15 different religious courts.
Succariyeh explains that any dispute in a Muslim marriage — she and Darwish are both Muslim — has to be adjudicated by Islamic judges.
“Actually, Lebanon is a sectarian regime,” she says. “For me as a woman, I don’t accept to be submitting to the religious men in the religious courts.”
A Human Rights Watch report this year found all Lebanon’s religious courts — Christian, Muslim and others — enforced laws that were unfair to women. Mixed-religion marriages are legal, but all religious authorities apply a tangle of conditions to them.
“For this reason, I wanted to be independent,” Succariyeh says. She wanted equality, to be the master of her family alongside her husband. “For this reason we chose civil marriage.”
A Trailblazing Wedding
She first met Darwish when he was a student of hers.
“I was teaching him English,” she says, laughing. “And then we fell in love.”
Succariyeh and Darwish are the same age. They both come from conservative families, but aren’t big on old traditions.
“Actually I kissed him the first time,” she says. “Nobody knows this, it’s a new idea I gave him a French kiss for the first time.”
This on their first date, before they even had dinner! So they started talking marriage. And although there hadn’t been a civil marriage in Lebanon in living memory, that’s what they wanted.
“From that point, we worked on this,” she says
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